Falling Down, The Blog

Losing My Religion?

Last week an NPR talk show was asking Catholic listeners to call in and share their thoughts about birth control.  I found myself wondering whether I’d meet the test.  I was certainly steeped in the culture and tradition. My great-grandmother went to Mass to pray for a husband.  She met a prosperous widower who’d lost his first job for being Catholic.  My grandmother was their eighteenth child.  Her inheritance went to the Jesuits.  I spent my childhood in parochial schools. I’m the sixth of ten, or seventh of eleven, if you count my oldest sister’s twin. (She lived three days.) 

My mother, a convert, followed the Church’s teaching on birth control, despite her severe morning sickness.  Somehow she made it through those nine years of nausea without losing her sense of humor, or humility.  She’s the archtypal Madonna figure.  Self-sacrificing, self-effacing, a calm Lady Madonna.  

When I ask her about the rhythm method, she shrugs and says, “We were so stupid!” 

According to polls, 98% of Catholic women seem to agree.  I remember in high school, in a Family and Marriage class, the priest saying God had special reverence for women.  I wonder now, though, how much you can revere someone while at the same time telling them they’re incapable of deciding when and how they’d like to have children?  In some ways, it’s as if the little red hen says, “Who will help me plant this wheat?” and the priest says, “Not I.  Agriculture is artificial interference with God’s plan.”

I presume that argument didn’t get extended to grains because even the pope likes his bread and beer.  Oddly, Viagra is also perfectly acceptable at most Catholic hospitals.  I guess gravity is one law of nature you’re encouraged to defy.  Go figure. 

It used to be that religion, politics and sex were not to be discusssed in public.  Now, the three subjects, like drunk uncles at a family reunion, have wrapped themselves so tightly around one another that its hard to know where one ends and the other begins.  Right wing politicians whip their congregations into a frenzy over sex. You have to wonder why this unseemly emphasis on our lady parts?  What’s missing?   Or as the French like to say, “Cherchez La Femme.” 

She’s notably absent from the pulpit, or the college of cardinals, conference of bishops or halls of the Vatican.  Apparently, she’s not smart enough to think for herself, which is, I’m afraid, the real reason I feel I’m losing my religion.  Not because I don’t believe in a beautiful, all loving God.  

I do. 

I just think she’s been silenced in our Holy Mother Church, along with all those female parishoners who appear to be using their God-given conscience to separate the wheat from the chaff, or in this case, the ridiculous from the sublime.

For more about being/not being Catholic, read these essays by two of my favorite Catholic women writers.

Julianna Baggott and Mary Gordon

PURE HEAVEN

Forbes magazine had an article on America's most generous people.  Of course, since it's Forbes, they meant money, but there are so many other ways to be generous.

My grandmother had a belief that the more you gave away, the more that would come back to you.

One of the writers who's been most generous to me is Julianna Baggott.  She's talked me up when I was down, off the ledge when I felt like jumping, and most of all, put me back into my story just when I was straying too far. As her students at Florida State's creative writing program and its motion picture classes can attest, this is a woman who gives. 

She seems to illustrate my grandmother's belief.  Despite taking time with so many people, despite having four children and a million friends, despite sitting down with a nobody like me, and lots of other nobodies, she has managed to produce more books than I have fingers and toes.  Her latest, which comes out today, is bloody AMAZING.  It's her best work yet, and this is a woman Richard Russo and others have said is one of the most talented writers out today.  (Did I mention she's beautiful and exactly 13 years younger than I am?  Not her fault.  Despite this and her skinny body, I LOVE her.  So does everyone I know.)

Here's the dope.  No, not that kind.  And no, I'm not looking in the mirror.

Julianna's newest book manages to cut through the clutter of the day and whisper to you that you've got something fun to look forward to.  When I was reading PURE I found myself getting into bed earlier and earlier just to get back to the characters and escape into their world.  It's that kind of book.   I read it when it was in galley stages and I kept apologizing that I was recommending something that wasn't available yet.  Well, now it is.  And look what some pretty famous people are saying about it, justifying the megabattle over film rights that went on last year. 

 

"... gorgeous ... You will be swept away."
-- Justin Cronin, New York Times Bestselling author of The Passage

"... extraordinary ... an important book ... by one of our finest writers."
-- Robert Olen Butler, winner of the Pulitzer Prize

"... nearly impossible to stop reading ... PURE packs one hell of an apocalypse."
-- Daniel H. Wilson, New York Times bestselling author of Robopocalypse

"... startling and addictive ... Breathtaking and frightening, I couldn't stop reading PURE."
-- Danielle Trussoni, New York Times bestselling author of Angelology

"... glorious ... full of wonderful weirdness, tenderness, and wild suspense. If Katniss could jump out of her own book and pick a great friend, I think she'd find an excellent candidate in Pressia."
-- Aimee Bender, New York Times bestselling author of The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake

"A post-apocalyptic thrill ride ... "
-- Steven Schneider, producer of the Paranormal Activity franchise

"Original and masterfully written ... startling, harrowing and touching..."
-- Jeff Vandermeer, World Fantasy Award Winner, bestselling author of City of Saints and Madmen

 

Here's where you can order it, unless you've got a wonderful independent bookstore nearby, in which case, please march on over there and get it from them.

indie bound

barnes and noble

http://www.amazon.com/Pure-Julianna-Baggott/dp/1455503061

May the blessings we extend into the world, come back to us, proving Helen Ranger Curran's prediction. Until then, enjoy your reading!

 

 

 

 

 

Bad Habits: Great Reading

 

Graham Greene said all good writers have bad memories.  I tell you this as an excuse for why I cannot remember whether it was Annie Proulx or Margaret Atwood who told Terri Gross, “In storytelling, there must be wolves.”  As in, danger.  To illustrate, she offered the example of someone who comes back from vacation and cannot stop saying how fabulous it was. Counter that with a story of my friend.  Her family got held up at gunpoint on their first day in Aix En Provence, and then, in an unrelated catastrophe, were robbed of everyone’s computers, gameboys, phones, and Ipods on the second afternoon of their glorious summer in a small French village. 

Is it Shadenfruede that makes us gravitate to what went wrong, rather than the Kodak moments of our friend’s vacations?  Or is it just more the element of surprise?  Whatever, Ms. Proulx-Wood was right: there must be wolves.

Which leads me to my worst writing habit, my profound unwillingness to put my beloved imaginary playmates (aka characters) into situations where they might possibly suffer.  Which leads me to pronounce that in the Decade of Dystopia, I have a sinking feeling I’ve written a Utopian novel.  

It started with my sister’s family moving to a neighborhood in Atlanta, a hidden gem of urban beauty, designed by Frederick Law Olmstead’s sons to extend the meandering beauty of their father’s Piedmont Park past its gated borders   Built at the turn of the nineteenth century, the treelined streets and elegant brick houses make you feel like you’ve landed on a perfect planet.  A walkable, bikable community close to chic restaurants, bars, museums, cafes. 

So that’s pleasant scenery (ie Kodak moment) number one. Oh my.

Fantasy number two is standard issue with me,  a group of close friends who live in walking distance of each other.  They’re funny, smart, forgiving and just a bit eccentric.  There is one bad apple, maybe two, in their midst, but for the most part, my Ansley Park neighbors are dolphins, not sharks.  They are puppies not wolves.

To make all of this worse, one day, in this novel’s infancy, an imaginary Catholic convent and church sprang into being. 

Here, you would think I could find some problems.  Nurse Ratchets of the nun variety.  Maybe an abusive priest to go with the headlines. But no. 

This is the grooviest convent in the world.  More like an English country inn or yoga retreat, full of enlightened older women serving the poor.  They, too, are funny, smart, irreverent and just exactly how I wish the real Church could operate in my oh-so-lapsed Catholic mind. 

In my book of the same name, Our Lady of the Snows was spared during the civil war, when Sherman was burning Atlanta.  A very small but effective rectangle of snow hovered above the church and motherhouse, keeping the buildings (and the slaves hidden inside) from incineration.  It is a charmed place, full of charming sisters. They are are organic gardeners, great cooks, prolific vintners and die-hard football fans. 

To say I’ve been searching for something like this since I let go of my regular attendance at Mass, well, it goes without saying.  Call me crazy but if I’m making things up, why the hell can’t I make a place that is exactly like where I’d want to go?

Into this perfect vacation of the mind, thank God or Ms. Proulxwood, other things have crept.  Things like greed, envy, piety and hubris.  They are my wolves, both real and fictional, driving my antagonists to topple the kingdom of Heaven, so to speak, with strategies fueled by fear, insecurity and a midlife crisis or two.  (Maybe Lucifer thought it was just too dull to have everything go so perfectly all the time?  Perhaps he wasn’t so much evil as felled by profound boredom.)   

Bringing out the wolves, as figurative as they might be, has taken a very long time.  Like, oh, five years now.  While the cancer thing might account for some of that, I think the rest has been my disinclination to put on my big-girl-pants and just let my people go! 

If yoga is the path of love over fear (my new mantra) then this process has been a similar journey except inside out.  Starting with the love and equanimity, what happens when fear -- whether of bankruptcy, betrayal or bullets – begins to chip away at the better angels of our nature? 

When I think of my novel’s conflict this way, I find some comfort.  This is certainly a question that drives much of what I’ve been most entertained by this year.  In HBO’s Game of Thrones or SHOWTIME’s Homeland, the main characters might be warriors, but they’re undone less by weapons and more by avarice, deception and/or their own compulsions, the inner wolves that drive us all.  In City of Thieves, a gorgeous novel by David Benioff set in Nazi-invaded Leningrad, the heroes’ fates are still cast in the character flaws of their enemies, as well as in certain quirks and foibles of their own. 

 

Similarly, in Pure, by Julianna Baggott, set for release on February 8^th, the riveting plot may take place against an epic backdrop of monstrous beauty and perfect horror, (every bit as fantastic as Game of Thrones, every bit as apocalyptic as World War II).  Still, the real action pivots on the internal struggles of our protagonists.  Pressia and Partridge are dogged as much by the demons of memory and loss as the harrowing creatures that pursue them.

“A great gorgeous whirlwind of a novel, boundless in its imagination. You will be swept away.”
—Justin Cronin, New York Times bestselling author of The Passage

“PURE is not just the most extraordinary coming-of-age novel I’ve ever read, it is also a beautiful and savage metaphorical assessment of how all of us live in this present age. This is an important book by one of our finest writers.”
—Robert Olen Butler, Pulitzer Prize winner.

Getting back to that perfect vacation, the one your friend bored you to death telling you about, perhaps what’s deadly dull isn’t the beauty of those sunsets but the glossing over of the negative in pursuit of what I see as false cheer.  I mean, really, who has had a perfect vacation? Ten to one, they’re victims of their own internal PR campaign or they’ve found a drug I’d very much like to try.

 Even the best of trips are replete with small problems, those lizards on the ceiling of your picturesque Mexican resort, the squatting toilet in that amazing Venetian restaurant, or just the itchy first day of getting accustomed to sudden leisure.  Maybe what’s compelling – whether in dystopia or utopia – is honesty, the acknowledgement that perfection exists only in magazines and Mommy Dearest’s wardrobe.   We may inhale those stylist’s dreams of the day no one mussed up the couch by sitting on it, but the real payoff comes when we strive towards the immaculate, only to find the devil (and the drama) lies in the details (and those dratted wire hangers.)

 Speaking of drama, I am also looking forward to reading Joshilyn Jackson’s newest, due out next week.  A Grown Up Kind of Pretty, like Gods in Alabama, Backseat Saints and Between, Georgia, will, I can lay a bet on it, take ‘pretty’ out for a ride in a fast car on a back road till the word takes on a Flannery O’Connoresque meaning.  Starred review, everyone.  You go, Joshilyn! 

"A mesmerizing tale of a family coping with the revelation of a secret that will change their lives. . . Jackson's most absorbing book yet, a lush, rich read with three very different but equally compelling characters at its core." - Kristine Huntley, Booklist (Starred Review)

"Highly immersive... a compelling page turner." - Publishers Weekly

"Liza, as the unreliable narrator, is used to perfection in this warm family story that teeters between emotional highs and lows, laughter and tears. Book groups will eat this up."
- Library Journal

Reading A Grown-Up Kind of Pretty feels a lot like falling in love: giddy and enthralling and a little bit dangerous... Book clubs take note, here's your next pick!"
- Sara Gruen, NYT Bestselling author of Ape House and Water for Elephants

Lastly, I'm way overdue to read Jefferson Bass' latest novel, The Bone Yard, which is set in a gorgeous prep school-type location not too far from my native town.  Talk about wolves.  The guards abused the tenants of The Dozier School for Boys, both physically and sexually, and in a twist that links to Ms. Joshilyn's novel, a secret graveyard (true story) concealed the victims who died.  After the book came out and Jon Jefferson, the writer behind Jefferson Bass' fabulously successful BONES series, championed the cause of a group of grown ups still dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,  the state of Florida chose to close the campus and finally look at reforming the ways in which troubled teens are incarcerated.

"A superb mystery novel-well-plotted, filled with memorable characters, based on accurate forensic science and written with more flair and literary sensibility than anything by John Grisham."
—Charlotte Observer on The Devil's Bones

"If you want to know what an autopsy theater really looks like, if you want to learn how to tell a skull's ethnic background by studying its teeth or how embalming works, Jefferson and Bass can tell you... Their books are well worth digging up."
—Wilmington Star-News on The Bone Thief

"This series, written by forensic anthropologist Bass (the creator of the real Body Farm in Tennessee) and Jefferson, just keeps getting better."
—Booklist on Bones of Betrayal

So: happy reading everbody!  Who says January is the cruelest month?  (Mr. Elliot is spinning in his grave.  Mr. Greene, not so much.)

A nearly identical post will be published tomorrow @ the Girlfriend's Cyber Circuit Group Blog, otherwise known as a GROG, or http://www.girlfriendbookclub.blogspot.com

 

A Rather Unflattering Portrait of the Artist as a Young Woman

          I took my first writing class at the age of 40.  It was called Mothers Write, sponsored by the Public Library in Tempe, Arizona.  Why did I wait so long, you might ask?  For many of the same reasons it was decades before I hauled my butt into therapy.  Convinced the shrink would tell me I was crazy (and snap his fingers for the men in white coats) I was also certain any writing instructor worth her salt would suspend my poetic license.  This image was less drastic than the insane asylum, more like a slow folding of the tents I’d pitched around a desire that dare not be named, lest it be immediately quashed by those arbiters of literary talent with taste and judgment.

          You see, even though I’d spent my childhood engrossed in books and even wrote plays we performed using the garage door as an impromptu curtain, it never occurred to me that I could be one of those godly creatures whose work I adored.

          Add Catholic guilt to fear of failure and you’ve got the perfect recipe for a young woman who avoids college English altogether.  She decides instead, after attending a lecture titled “Torture in Brazil” to major in saving the world.   I put together my own course of studies, variously described, depending on my audience, as Latin American Studies, Agricultural Economics in the Third World and/or Ending World Hunger and Poverty and That’s Not Funny. 

          By my senior year, I was insufferable.  I knew everything.  I knew nothing.  I could not buy a record album (def: midcentury spinning disc played on turntable to produce sound waves) because that five dollars would feed a family in Bolivia for a week.  In reply to an innocent greeting by an unsuspecting stranger,  I might very well say, “Well, it’s not a good morning in Chile.”   The more I discovered about Latin America, the harder I found it to describe, the more its miseries weighted me down.  There was nothing I could offer in the way of practical solutions, given the failures of so many well-meaning souls who’d ventured there before me, only to discover that the Law of Unintended Consequences is otherwise known by the last name of Murphy.

Besides, there were dictators in Latin America, commanding militias bent on eating do-gooders like me for brunch and spitting us out before siesta.  Worse, I’d heard there existed fun-sized cockroaches bigger than your head.  

          It was by chance that I read Gabriel Garcia Marquez, then Mario Vargas Llossa, Jorge Luis Borges, Isabel Allende.  These titans of Latin American literature were able to express that imponderable complexity that had so defied my powers of exposition.  The byzantine nature of life, described from within a culture rather than above or outside it.  Most important and redemptive of all, these writers took neither themselves nor their people’s struggles so much to heart that they forgot humor, valiance, happiness, love. 

By George, they had it!

          Exit, stage left, the missionary in faux-peasant dress.  Enter stage right, a devotee of this glorious form of communication known as the novel.  As in, that lovely relic from my childhood, that form of storytelling I’d been depriving myself of for years in the name of ‘doing good.’ 

          I applied to study comparative literature at the University of Chicago, eager to find the truths that fiction could teach.  I soon discovered that –in the Eighties – notions like truth, beauty and even inspiration were wildly out-of-fashion among serious scholars of the book.  What they pursued instead was a fugitive meaninglessness which one sought by plunging along with them down the intellectual rabbit hole and through narrow ant-farm diagrams of sentences parsed to the Nth degree. 

          I barely escaped with my Master’s, prodded on by my patient boyfriend through the academic equivalent of Navy Seal tryouts.  Susan Sontag, one of my program’s more famous alums, had been quoted as saying she never felt smart enough to be at the University of Chicago.  This sentiment buoyed me during that difficult time, plowing through Ulysses and Proust over the same weekend I was to digest and regurgitate Foucault, Levi-Strauss and Lacan.  The result became a melting pot of confusion, or as Woody Allen famously quipped about having taken Evelyn Wood’s speed-reading course, “I just read War and Peace.  It’s about Russia.”

            One of my favorite professors there taught Structuralism with a wink and a nod.  She described the difference between our university and Berkeley.  “Here, you go to a party and everyone talks about their work, sneaking away to see a movie or plant their garden.  In California, they talk about their prize tomatoes or film, and sneak away to do their work.

I became a Californian, in spirit if not location.  For years thereafter I waited tables, sneaking away to write novels, telling myself it was ‘just practice’ for the law I would someday practice.  By the time my husband snagged a tenure track job at the University of Virginia, I was able to apply to both law school and the creative writing program.  The MFA was my ‘safety school’.  Both rejected me. 

Fast forward through two children, several nervous breakdowns, midlife crises I and II.  Through it all, including somewhat abrupt relocations to England, Boston and Arizona,  I continued to write fiction.  Even more important, I read.  Voraciously, omnivorously, from soup to nuts, Nora Ephron, Toni Morrison, Doris Lessing, John Le Carre, John Fowles, Ken Follett, William Styron, Pat Conroy, Kaye Gibbons, Susan Isaacs, David Lodge, Helen Fielding, Elizabeth George, Mary Doria Russell.  

          Meanwhile, I avoided rejection with the same assiduous caution that repelled me from close encounters with foreign insects.  Better to keep myself and my dream alive than expose it to the venom that might fell me with one blow, or slowly sap my strength and jaundice me towards that one thing I loved like no other, the fictional dream. 

           Every few years I’d gather myself up and send out queries to agents and editors.  It took five rejections, even if they were encouraging, to sentence my first two novels to death.  Not good enough, I’d tell myself, and begin again.  From page one, a new story, a fresh four hundred pages until the next dreaded submission. 

          When I tell this story to would-be authors, it’s a cautionary tale.   Rejection, I have come to understand very late in the game, is the rule, not the exception.  Gird your loins, I tell them.  How many years earlier might I have been published if I’d not taken an agent or editor’s ‘passing’ as indicative of the value of my work? 

          On the other hand, it may very well be that the detours I took taught me more than I realized.  My insufferable know-it-all without a sense of humor morphed into Siobhan from Everyone She Loved.  The insectaphobe turned rejectaphobe took life in Diana Lively is Falling Down.   Academia provided the landscape of comedy much as my prior earnestness had doused its flame.  In the end, I had acres of time to develop my own sense of what was great, enjoying popular writers as much as I had Austen, Tolstoy, and Garcia Marquez, aiming my sights on a middlebrow form where high meets low at the crossroads, slapping their hands in time and refuting the silence of one hand clapping, over and over, afraid to make a sound ‘til she gets it just right.      

A Letter to My Family On the 20th Anniversary of My Brother's Death

Thankless Jobs, Unsung Heroes and The Honor Code

On Wednesday we went to Beth Palmer Freedman’s funeral. Her husband Louis, speaking to a large crowd, said, almost bewildered, “She made everything so easy.”  Whether it was the clothes she laid out for him or the children she raised or all the little unseen things she did each day, he described it as if it was a Mary Poppins world he’d not really noticed, a kind of magic.

From the view of the outside world, the things Beth did were unrecognized as well.   Louis’ standing in his profession, the money he brought in to the house, the way he provided for her, that’s what so many people think of as success.  For an educated young woman, the know-it-all I was in my twenties, Beth’s life of unseen service could be dismissed, or even demeaned.

This morning John woke me with a cup of coffee. He said the sweetest thing: “I wish I could always bring you coffee.”

 I thought about Dad.  What we remembered, despite his amazing accomplishments, were the little things he did.  The way he cared for Mom, the way he welcomed strangers into his home, his encouragement to any and all of us.

I remember when one of Tom’s friends was getting married, he asked Dad for advice.  Dad said, “Just don’t get caught up in counting who’s doing what.  Then you’ll be fine.”

For me, at the time, that counsel was hopelessly old-school.  It was contrary to what I was aiming for in my own relationship.   Whether it was doing the dishes or waking with our kids, I wanted John to do ‘half.’  My reasoning was that if I didn’t insist on equality, I’d get ‘stuck’ doing it all.  He’d not even notice, and in the end, he’d have his career and I’d have no time to aim for any of my own dreams.  I felt certain that my striving for gender equity would result in a better end, one in which we both got to do our share of the sh*t work.  In the end, neither of us would resent anything, and we’d both get to aim for some glory as well.  (I’m not dismissing the importance of a world in which women have struggled for ‘equality’; I’m only questioning the concept that certain kinds of work are elevated while others are diminished.)   

None of us are really church-goers, but in some ways, Dad’s advice, and his and Mommy’s example, the thing that Louis was marveling about Beth, was a little bit like “turn the other cheek.” A little bit like “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.”  Forget the money, forget the glory, just do what you can for those you love and the rest will follow.  It’s so counter-intuitive, so opposite the ‘survival of the fittest’ that I begin to understand its radical underpinnings. 

Mom ‘offered herself up’ so beautifully, and so invisibly, that she made it look easy.  When things got tough these last two years, so many people stepped up to help her take care of Dad.  Tere and Ellen and Karen and Ranger and Bob were spelled by out-of-towners who came when they could, aided by the lovely small town network of medical care and friends like Sally Mckelvey or Mark Funk or Bill Toms who’d stop in when they could.  Scott flew them to the beach the last year Dad was able to go.  Larry was the most highly paid (yet unpaid) flight attendant the world has ever seen. 

When I see Mom and we talk about how she’s doing, the first thing she tells me is how lucky she is.  She recounts each person’s care for her as if it’s magic.  And it is.  Whether it’s Mac and Gil waiting on her “hand and foot,” or Tere and Ellen showing up in the middle of the night during a crisis, she’s got that same note of incredulity in her voice I heard from Louis as he talked about Beth.

I said to her, “Mom, you’re the one who did this first, who set the example.  Everyone loves you.  They want to do it.  It’s a pleasure.”

And it’s true.  When I mourn Dad’s loss, I’m most grateful for the times I was able to help, to do something he appreciated, whether it was making him laugh or carrying his oxygen tank.  As a kid, I always thought we were supposed to aim our sights on those things that get you into the New York Times obituary page, the recognition of the marketplace for true achievement.  But when it comes down to it, I think what we’ll remember is that we did for others as we’d have them do for us.  

We all have our turn to serve.  There are times, particularly when your children are young, that it seems as if it will never end, this so-called opportunity.   It does and it will, and when you look back on it, you may be like our own mother, who so forgets her endless days that she will shake her head at someone else’s unswerving motherhood and say, as if it’s an impossible challenge, “How in the world can she do it?”

  We’ve all seen those marriages in which the roles are so lopsided we want to rescue the wife, or husband.  Their spouse seems not to notice, or worse, to accept the constant caretaking as his or her due.  I’ve always thought the ones doing all the taking were exploitive, grasping what they could and giving nothing back. 

I had a ‘friend’ in Arizona who came to our book club pot lucks and never brought anything.  She didn’t think anyone would notice.  She even told me those women were ‘chumps,’ that she was getting something for nothing. If they were too stupid to notice, she might as well come in and take what she could.  She thought this was fine, since she was smarter than they were.

As a hopeless counter who’s done her share of grumbling about who didn’t do their part, I am only now beginning to see something my parents recognized a long time ago.  It can’t be taught, and perhaps it will never ever make itself known to the person who thinks she’s pulled one over on everyone else.  There is a pleasure that comes from giving and a resulting gain in self-worth that can’t be gamed.  Let the ‘user’ keep on using, she’ll never know what she’s missed.  All she may find is, that much as she acquires, something is still gone terribly missing.

 This brings me back to Dad, to a story he told about his time in England with other American pilots.  They were at a cocktail party and one of the Yanks was saying he’d forgotten his money and been allowed onto the subway system, which (at the time) had an honor code.  All he’d been required to do was write down his name and address.  One of the Americans in the crowd said, as if the Brits were stupid, “Geez, who’d write down his real name and address?”   

One of the English pilots simply replied “Who wouldn’t?”

On this anniversary of Tommy’s death, I’d like to say thank you to all of you who’ve stepped in and done my share, who’ve taken on a chore I didn’t do.  To Mac and Gil, who provided Mommy with a soft berth after losing the love of her life, we all are so appreciative.  To Cath and Larry who have offered her a small place to get back her sea legs, this is only one of the many gifts we all have gotten from you two, and again, if you don’t think we’re noticing, we are.  Tere and Ellen, for the nights before we came, when you stayed up all night to keep Dad from getting out of bed or helped him walk, each of you holding him up, we noticed.

  If I thanked all of you who have helped to shepherd the rest of us through an awful time, I’d take several pages.  The great thing is, you all know who you are, and what you’ve done.  No one can take that away from you. 

Mom, you especially, might underestimate your service, not just in the past few years as Dad needed more help, but all those years, when he sang your tributes.  He might have done it out of tune, but no one ever doubted the truth of what he was saying.  You were his sunshine, and now you’re ours.  The example you set keeps on generating its own little engine of giving, whether it’s bringing home a paycheck or detailing a car or taking someone golfing or making a fabulous meal.  The ashes will go back to ashes, and the dust to dust, but in the end, that torch of giving will keep getting passed along, to new generations and to an ever-expanding network of bearers, each warmed in the smallest of ways by the privilege of being able to contribute.

I love you all.

Sheila

p.s. for any and all of you who've benefitted from HOSPICE, I was just told that in our little town, they'd lost a lot of funding due to federal budget cuts. Their best doctor had resigned so others could be kept on. If you feel disposed, please donate to your local Hospice, for these people are truly unsung heroes.

Independence Day, Maybe Too Little But Never Too Late

Okay, so the 4^th has come and gone and I’m still thinking about the subject of independence, which can mean so many things.   There’s the patriotic kind, which I tend to celebrate more by thanking my lucky stars I get to live in this beautiful land under the rule of law, a freedom I don’t take lightly.  I know how many people have risked their lives, and livelihoods to get us where we are today.  I thank them.  I would even gladly pay more taxes to show my gratitude.  How retro! 

          The sort of independence I’m chasing lately is highly personal.  It might even be deemed suspect by those arbiters of good psychological health, the imperious they who seem to operate like a Greek chorus of guardian angels in my brain.  You should step outside your comfort zone, should  accompany your husband on an almost free business trip to Europe, should get over your almost agoraphobic need to remain at home in order to stick with your novel. 

          For years I’ve abided by the conventional wisdom of so many experts. In order to become a better person, I needed, I was told, to stretch myself.  Take on unfamiliar assignments with gusto, even if the five minute TV interview that went smashingly cost me three weeks of anxiety, or the upcoming book talk at my college reunion sabotaged my ability to enjoy the beach vacation immediately preceding it. 

I felt that if I just kept plugging away, I could finally overcome this silliness of mine, this desire for routine and order and sameness, this risk-aversion bordering on pathological.  

Decades ago, when my brother Tom was going through a bone marrow transplant, I remember calling him to recount what I thought was a funny story.  I tend to make myself the butt of jokes.  My anxiety is – in my family – like a quirky pet we all like to poke fun at.   I’d returned from a lake visit in Wisconsin, wherein I was in a motor boat with my four-year-old son and his friends. The teenage girl who was driving suddenly offered me a chance at the wheel. 

“Go, Mommy!” my son yelled. 

For just one minute, I had delusions of grandeur.   I grinned.  I think might have I even nodded, my game face on. 

The driver stood and started the hand-off requiring that I step in and take the wheel when I realized that I might very well kill us.  Instead of moving over and calmly putting my hands at two and ten o’clock, I sank to my knees, grabbed the bewildered young woman’s thighs and begged her “Please don’t make me do it!” 

We laughed, my brother and I and then I nattered on about a speech I had to give to the foundation of the college I worked for.  I was terrified.  When I’d exhausted my supply of fearful commentary about the fool I could very well make of myself, Tommy paused and said, “Sheila, just drive the boat.”

My foundation talk went wonderfully.  A year later, almost to the day of that phone conversation, I told the ‘Drive the boat’ story at Tommy’s funeral.  Those words became code in my family for those things we feared but nevertheless knew we had to do.

Twenty years later, I’m still trying to drive the boat.  The trouble is, each time I succeed in public speaking, it makes not a whit of difference in the paralyzing anxiety I experience beforehand.  The only exception is when I have to do it routinely, say on book tour, and then it’s a piece of cake.

When I accepted the invitation to speak at my college reunion, it was far enough away that it didn’t seem problematic.  Even in March, when I visited my father and mother and mentioned it to them, it was only a cause for congratulations and a true feeling of gratitude.  (My college held a very dear place, not just in my own heart but in that of my parents too.)

The next time I visited home, my father was still alive, but not conscious.  He died the next morning, surrounded by his kids.  Eight weeks later we all gathered at the beach, as we have done for nearly thirty years.  We cast some of his ashes into the same water we’d bodysurfed with him just two years earlier, when he was ninety. 

I left that vacation with my siblings a day early to fly to Cincinnati and drive to Oxford, Ohio, a tripartite errand during which I first had to keep the plane from crashing, then drive a car on unfamiliar turf after losing my glasses and third, deliver a speech which I’d not been able, despite many days of working on it, to get ‘right.’

The next morning happened to be my father’s birthday. I told myself I was meant to be there. I ended up “winging” the talk, something I never do, and sharing a really lovely hour with intelligent women and men I admired.  I met lots of new people, sold some books and enjoyed being back in my old dorm room, walking the halls and reminiscing.

So the moral of the story should be that I came home with renewed enthusiasm to drive the boat.  Not so much.  Instead, while on a walk with a dear friend who is also a therapist, I said I’d been searching for the meaning in this experience, and yet no grand epiphany had as yet emerged.  At that moment, though, even as I said that, the light bulb went on. I found myself saying, and really meaning it, “Maybe the point is that I really don’t have to do this anymore.”

Wow.   Seriously?  Could I possibly be right?  I know it counters the wisdom of the Protestant Ethic and Catholic Guilt as well as my own code of constant self-improvement. 

Here’s the thing.  I have understood that life will present me with many opportunities to ‘stretch myself.”  And though it’s a mighty thing to chug and chug and keep on chugging, it’s also okay to let yourself off the hook. 

I remember playing tennis with my dad.  He’d tell me that only for the first five minutes of the game did I need to concentrate on lessons the pro had taught.  After that I should just forget it and play. 

So here’s to stretching myself in a new direction, that of not caring whether I measure up to an ever-increasing goal.  Here’s to playing the game as I want, letting myself off the hook, and being myself, even if it means owning my silliness.  I’m going to stay put and do what feels comfortable for a while.  To paraphrase the author of LETTERS TO JACK who I heard on my beloved NPR, when asked about an accident that paralyzed him, he said that he’d never understood the meaning of happiness until he was stuck with who he was and not constantly striving.  So in that spirit, I too am taking leave of my senses, or maybe finally taking note of them.

 

Crossing to Safety: He Will Be Remembered

Ranger Curran, Sr., 92, made his final landing on April 19, 2011.   He was a World War II fighter pilot, logging 340 combat hours and won the Distinguished Flying Cross among other medals. In 2002, he was inducted into the Air National Guard Hall of Fame for his participation on the nation’s first jet precision acrobatic team, “The Minute Men.”     

Colonel Curran retired from the Air Force at age 45 before earning a Ph.D. in Management from the University of Georgia.   He then taught at Youngstown State University, before moving to Keene State College in 1981, where he remained as a faculty member until his 82^nd year.  For several years the family lived in Dublin, where he had summered as a child, before moving to Keene in 2001.

Serving on international commissions, Ranger Curran’s proudest accomplishment was his marriage to Celia Galbreath, who was a true partner in all he did. 

 Having lost their son, Tom, to cancer in 1992, Ranger and Celia cherished each of their remaining children as well as an ever expanding circle of loved ones who joined the family over time.

 

An avid athelete, Ranger was a Golden Gloves boxer, played football for Worcester Polytech, coached the US Air Force boxing team, and played squash and tennis well into his eighties.  Having been educated at WPI and the University of Minnesota, then interrupted by war, Ranger finished his baccalaureate at Boston University, he kept up a keen intellectual life until his final days. 

 

Ranger is survived by his bride, Celia, and children, Carolyn (and Frank Stafford) Mary Ann (and Gil Hudnall), Deirdre, Ranger Jr. (and Karen Curran), Tere (and Bob Clarkson) Sheila (and John Corrigan), John (and Holly Curran), Ellen (ODaniell), Mike (and Beth Curran), Cathy  (and Larry Dorfman), twenty-five grandchildren, eight great-grandchildren and countless ‘shirt-tail’ relatives.  His sister, Betty Huntress and dear cousin, Virginia Mersch mourn him as well.

 A celebration of his life will be held at the Keene Country Club, on Saturday, April 23^rd at four o’clock.  Those wishing to commemorate Ranger are invited to donate to Hospice at HCS, 312 Marlboro St., Keene, NH 03431.   Arrangements are handled by Fletcher Funeral Home, but calling hours will not be held.

Father's Day

Manhood 101: Having Your Masculinity and Your Marriage Too

by

Sheila Curran

When it comes to macho, you can’t get more manly than my father.  Air Force fighter pilot, Air National Guard Hall of Famer, Golden Gloves boxer.  Kind of a cigar-smoking cross between Robert Duval in The Great Santini and George C. Scott in Patton, except that he’d never be cruel to his children, nor would he have suffered fools gladly enough to make general. 

He’s actually more like the late Paul Newman, happily married to the same woman for sixty-six years, still willing to match anyone drink for drink and insist on picking up the tab for the whole bar.  He has a gruff voice, refuses to mince words, and radiates an atheletic energy that’s served him well throughout his life. 

    So far, so good.  You’re with me. 

But here’s where the story goes off the beaten track.  When the going got tough, he didn’t go shopping, precisely.  Then again, maybe that’s exactly what happened. 

My father was stationed in Alaska when he mastered the art of braiding my sisters’ hair, changing my brother’s diapers, doing laundry and even cooking a mean set of pancakes.  No, it wasn’t some early version of Wife Swap, but a much grittier reality show, one you’ve not seen on TV. 

He and my mom had been married for seven years and had four children, aged six years to six weeks.  One minute Dad was bringing his squadron home for dinner at three in the morning (surprise!);  the next he was being told that his lovely wife had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and would be quarantined in the hospital for an indefinite period of time.

    When he tells the story, it’s with characteristic self-deprecation.  “I didn’t have a clue.  I remember Celia wanted a clothes dryer.  ‘Are you kidding?’ I asked her.  “Do you know what those things cost?” 

A few weeks into Mom’s illness, he saw the light – or was it a Whirlpool? – in the rivers of wash created by four sets of snowsuits, wool scarves and mittens and the cloth squares that were – in those days – not an alternative but rather the only barrier standing between him and much less pleasant overflows. 

Diaper delivery wasn’t an option, not even a gleam in an eco-marketer’s eye.  Deliverance came in a large steel box that rendered clotheslines obsolete and turned my father into a walking-talking spokesperson for the plight of the unsung housewife.   

When not hunting for perenially lost socks, he prayed.  He began – as we recovering Catholics might say – to “offer things up.”  First candy, which he loved, then cigarettes. As he tells it now, it was touch and go, because the next thing on his list, when my mother was transferred to the hospital that cured her, was going to be wine.  “Just in the nick of time,” he laughs.

He is generous of heart and confident enough that he doesn’t need to resort to posturing to prove his worth.  I never once heard him brag. While some of  his contemporaries blathered in bars about their exploits in World War II, Dad would be home with Mom.  They often had dinner guests who stayed on into the evenings, talking about religion, or politics or literature but I never once heard him talk about shooting down planes or the courage it took to keep flying even when his buddies were killed.  In his late eighties, and only after coaxing from all of us, he began to tell us about the war, but even then, his stories were about other men’s heroism, not his own. 

Don’t get me wrong.  He’s not touchy-feely and wouldn’t know therapeutic lingo if he stepped in it.  Nevertheless, he is profoundly sensitive to the wounds of others, visible or not.  In his gruff way, he welcomes a guest to our house, or hands a beggar a twenty, teaching all of us by example his central creed: Love One Another.  This extends to seeing the best in people, an attitude that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.  He is rich in true friends, young and old and among his most ardent admirers are the children he raised with an eye towards their possibilities, even when circumstances might have begged to differ.

 I remember being a self-aborbed teenager, caught up in my own world, and dismissive of the treasures by which I was surrounded: the siblings I would come to cherish, the parents I assumed all children had.  We’d finished eating dinner and doing dishes when Dad asked me to take out the trash.  “But that’s not my job,” I protested.  For some reason, he held onto his patience. “Consider it a labor of love, Sheila.  If you do it, your mother won’t have to.”

That’s all he said.  A labor of love. I probably grumbled all the way to the garbage can about unfairness, but the words left their mark.  It may have been my brother’s chore, but by sending me instead, he reinforced two points.  One was a longstanding rule that we weren’t allowed to ‘tell’ on one another.  This was a policy rare in those days, rare even now.  Its intention was to promote unity among the ‘troops’ as my father still calls us. We certainly fought fiercely, pinching, hitting and snapping at each other.  Nevertheless, we remain exceptionally attached, both to one another and to the parents whose fondest dream was the creation of a happy family.   When I think about it now, all they achieved, that happy family is right up there with military honors and the Ph.D. he earned after ‘retiring’ at the age of forty-five.  That he did it with ten children is almost as amazing as the fact I never heard my mother complain about the uncertainty such a move meant for her or for the family budget.   Rightly so, she considered his accomplishments her own.  So did my father.  They were a team. He’d learned the hard way just how much her labor at home allowed him to excel in the world at large. 

What I’ve learned from Dad’s example is that the honest work of love, the real ‘manning up,’ involves putting yourself, whoever you are and whatever you do, into your spouse’s shoes.   The reason marriages thrive is that both partners break through their inexperience and empathize with the other’s challenges, whatever they may be.  That’s the real lesson at the heart of my father’s heroism.  He can shake his head at his former self, bare his soul in unflattering light, be humble enough to admit when he was wrong, and imaginative enough to remember, long after my mother had returned to the kitchen, that love’s labors – unlike socks – are never really lost, just tucked away in a place it takes a brave heart and eagle’s gaze to notice.   

Mother's Day: My Way

But Wait, There’s More

by

Sheila Curran

When my mother phoned with the news that my sister Cathy had delivered her second child, a boy we’d come to call Tommy, she said, “Sheila, I don’t know how she does it!”

    At the time, I didn’t think to remind Mom that she’d given birth herself.  If you’re doing the math, you’re thinking “Right! At least twice.”

    The truth is stranger still. My mother had ten labors. Yes. Even back in the Sixties when many Catholics followed the Church’s ban on birth control, I remember friends’ parents reacting to the news I had so many siblings. They’d gasp,  “But your mother doesn’t look like she’s had ten children!”

    And she didn’t.  She was, and is, a beauty.  Tall, slender, Grace Kelly features, and a sense of fashion that was both classic and cosmopolitan, she presented an aura of calm tolerance, both to the world at large, and more importantly, at home with us.

    How did she do it?  Ten pregnancies in twenty years.  Morning sickness night and day, month after month.  I figure Mom spent nine years of her life seasick,  simultaneously having to contain the crew, swab the decks and steer the ship. 

    Moreover, my father was an Air Force fighter pilot, which meant she never stopped worrying.  Even after the war, when no one was trying to shoot him down, crashes were common.  Friends of theirs died, including a member of Dad’s acrobatic flying team, at an air show our family was watching.

    Like all military families, we got transferred every other year.  They say the stress of moving is second only to losing a spouse. For Mom, I imagine the two were strangely linked.  Would the ringing phone bring the worst news of all, or, if she was lucky, would it be my father telling her it was time to start packing?  Again. 

    Narrating her story is like one of those late night infomercials.  But wait!  There’s more!

    For starters, there’s the time before I was born, when my mom was diagnosed with tuberculosis.  In those days, the disease was a death sentence, and highly contagious.  One minute my mother was at the doctor with her newborn, the next she was whisked away to a hospital room, under a quarantine that lasted a full year.  Picture this: Anchorage, Alaska, 1949, Christmas morning.  Dad stands outside the hospital with my four eldest siblings, aged six weeks to six years.  They’re bundled in snowsuits, all waving up at Mommy, who’s trying to smile convincingly from an impossible distance. 

    Decades later, when my younger brother Tom, then 28, was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, it would be this story we repeated.  Mom had a terminal illness but because of a new experimental drug, she survived.  Not only that, three years later, she’d start what we call the ‘second half’ of the family, six more children, including Tom.  There was hope.  Miracles happened. 

This was a story we all clung to, even when the doctors suspended Tom’s treatment.  It was March of 1992, the same month, coincidentally, that my sister Cathy needed surgery during the aforementioned pregnancy, to remove a cyst that hadn’t ‘resolved.’ 

    You get used to this medical terminology, to words like ‘resolved” and ‘encapsulated,’ when they’re used by doctors who are trying to help you understand the unimaginable.

    That surgery saved my sister’s life.  Her right ovary was removed, its germinal carcinoma contained by a sturdy wall of normal cells.  Two months later, she’d deliver her healthy son, Tommy, into the arms of my dying brother, who would live two months and two days past that miraculous event. 

Miraculous Event.  His words, not mine. Tom wasn’t prone to sentimental language. If he described the birth that way, who was I – who’d never witnessed the process – to disagree?

Our family doctor gave my brother’s eulogy.  He said that though he’d never believed in an afterlife, he found it impossible to accept that someone of such magnificent energy wouldn’t carry on, in some form.  The laws of nature wouldn’t allow it. 

You had to know Tom to understand: he was funny, dangerously handsome and so vital, even in his final days, it was impossible to believe he could disappear without a trace.

    Until that time of sadness, I’d always claimed I didn’t have a ‘spiritual bone in my body.’  Strangely, at the worst moment in my life, when Tom stopped breathing, I saw something – or felt it  – that changed me forever.  Some presence visited me during that moment that I can only describe as overwhelming goodness.  I wonder if it’s the same sensation people describe when they see a child come into the world. 

    Scientists might say that after going through so much pain, my brain was rescued by endorphins.  Maybe that’s how my parents have managed to live on after losing their son. Maybe that’s how my mother continues to call with such exuberance, as she did today when my niece got into the college of her choice. 

Or maybe it’s as simple as this.  Having lived through the worst, Mom understands that life is not connected to her remote control.  She might as well enjoy it when she can, for the clouds will come back, and so will rain.

    As of this writing, six of her children have been diagnosed with cancer.  All of us but Tom have survived.  We all expect to live a long and happy life, buoyed by the example of my parents, who have shown such valiance and grace, even into their nineties.

    My mom is a pretty hard act to follow.  Still, why not throw up my hands and give it a try?  Why not go out and exult, as my sister Dede did the evening Tom died. “Hey, you’ve got to come outside and see this rainbow!”

    I know. Hallmark is going to sue, and the literary gods are wailing “She didn’t.” But even if the truth doesn’t comport with Tommy’s irreverent streak, I can’t say it didn’t happen, even if it is the stuff of My Little Pony and the Keebler elves.

Dede took my parents by the hand. The rest of us followed.  There in the distance, over the mountains, was the most astonishing Technicolor rainbow this side of those postcards depicting God wearing a nightgown.

    Later that night, when my friend from Chicago called, I told her about the rainbow.  “That’s really weird,” she murmured.  “I saw one too, about seven o’clock.” 

But wait.  There’s more.

My brother John saw one in Florida, on his way to the airport, as did two Atlanta relatives, and a friend in Maine, all at roughly the same time on the same day. 

Is such a thing even possible? Were these people just trying to make us feel better?  Or maybe rainbows are like that, stretching farther than you thought.

And that infomercial hook? “But wait! There’s more!”  Maybe it is a con. Maybe, though, as my mother must know better than I, every package you get will come with a little surprise.  Some will be pleasant, others will knock you flat, but the odd thing is, the story’s never really over, even when you’re quite certain you’ve come to the end.     

 

Published in THANKS MOM, CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL, Simon and Schuster, March 26, 2010  

The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

Every Christmas I buy books as presents but this past December, as I thought about what to buy, I was stymied by the fact that half my family had Kindles and the other half were probably getting them under the tree.  Suddenly the books I was so happy to personalize to each sister and brother's taste seemed gratuitious, heavy to pack and possibly outmoded.  Multiply this times a zillion and you get the digital revolution, which has pretty much put all of us on PAUSE until we figure out what's going to happen.

One of my Girlfriends in the GCC, Jenny Gardiner, has made a move. Here's her explanation of why she's chosen to cut out the middle man (otherwise known as the publisher) and market her books directly through her literary agency.  Now the rub is that I don't HAVE A KINDLE.  For those of you that do, this book looks so yummy!  And has a great premise. 

order the book here!  (And if you're looking for a NON-digital book, read SLEEPING WITH WARD CLEAVER or Winging It: A Memoir of Caring for A Vengeful Parrot Who's Determined to Kill Me)

  In SLIM TO NONE, Abbie Jennings is Manhattan's top food critic until her expanding waistline makes staying incognito at restaurants impossible. Her cover blown on Page Six of the New York Post, her editor has no choice but to bench her—and suggest she use the time off to bench-press her way back to anonymity. Abbie’s life has been built around her career, and therefore around celebrating food. Forced to drop the pounds if she wants her primo gig back, Abbie must peel back the layers of her past and confront the fears that have led to her current life.

Here is Jenny's explanation of why she'd made this decision. 

    Shortly after I received my Kindle e-reader for my birthday a few months ago, I was reading in bed at midnight, not loving the book I had downloaded, but wanting to continue to read something. So with the magic of my electronic reader, in two minutes' time, I found another book on Amazon, downloaded the thing, and had begun reading it. How cool is that?

Dramatic changes have been underway in the publishing industry in recent years—changes that--combined with a faltering economy--have left traditional publishing in a bit of a tailspin. While the cumbersome infrastructure of the publishing industry is perhaps not quite nimble enough to as easily embrace and adapt to these changes, authors are on their own figuring out how they can achieve their end goal--to reach readers hungry for their work.

I've been fortunate to be teamed up with a literary agent—the wonderful Holly Root—whose agency (The Waxman Agency) is an innovator and has undertaken a bold new program of offering up high-quality books to the reading public via a digital imprint called Diversion Books.

    I jumped at the chance to be part of this program because in many ways I am a convert to e-reading and I believe that society is on the cusp of a major shift in how people read books. I've always felt badly that there is a tremendous amount of paper waste with books—that books that don't sell get sent back to the publishers and ultimately destroyed. And as one who has on many occasions found at least three books lurking in the bowels of her purse (which gets heavy!), I love having all of my reading neatly compiled into one small, lightweight and very portable device. And strangely I find I can focus more readily when reading in a public place with an e-reader. Go figure.

I think that as competition increases with the introduction of new e-readers, and prices come down in the near future, soon electronic readers like the Kindle, the Nook, the Sony Reader and the iPad (of which 1 million units were sold in 28 days) will become as commonplace as cell phones (with smart phones already an e-reading option for many).

    Are e-books the perfect solution? Not at all. I hate the idea that e-books contribute to marginalizing wonderful independent book stores, and hope that somehow some of the talk—of e-book downloads being available at stores, perhaps, will help to mitigate that. And I hate to sit back and watch layoffs and consolidation in the publishing industry, as really good people, fabulous editors, publicists and artists are squeezed out as the business changes. The music industry experienced these same sea changes and frankly nothing about it is easy. But as the mainstream industry goes more and more toward sure-bet books to the exclusion of the vast mid-list, which is really like the middle class of the writing world, more authors will by necessity seek alternatives to continue to pursue their passion and to reach their readers.

    I decided to publish digitally with Diversion Books rather than cold turkey on my own because, alas, I am such a Luddite. Well, not fully. But I am technologically stunted and I don't have the time in my life right now to figure out how to do this on my own, and I am happy to be able to work with such wonderful professionals to collaborate on an end-result we can all be proud of. It's early enough that I can't tell you how the outcome will be, but so far so good and I really just hope I can get the word out to enough e-readers about the book—I do find that those who are early adapters with e-readers are enthusiastic to buy books, which is a good thing for everyone in a market in which so few books are being purchased. And I hope that my readers will be able to access this book.

Of course tangible paper books aren't going to go away, but the convenience of downloading books and carrying literally hundreds of them in such compact form is awfully hard to beat. And I'm thrilled to be at the forefront of such exciting innovations and to be able to offer up a book that I absolutely love and think that you will too.

    Many of you may know me as a novelist who was able to successfully market my way into a publishing contract with my first novel, SLEEPING WITH WARD CLEAVER, which was the winner of Dorchester Publishing's American Title III contest a few years ago. Back then I sort of stumbled into the frontier of capitalizing on what would soon become the most comprehensive way to market and publicize books—via networking on the internet.

Since that time, the industry has shifted in none-too-subtle ways as the internet has become an integral part of the publishing picture. So much so that e-publishing, which used to be considered an unconventional means of publication, is clearly being viewed now as the wave of the future.  The future is already upon us, and I hope that you will join me in this brave new "frontier" and check out my debut e-novel, SLIM TO NONE, in which Abby Jennings, Manhattan's premier food critic, is outed on Page Six of the New York Post, and to her chagrin she realizes she's too recognizably fat to now remain incognito in her job. Her editor gives her six months to shape up or ship out, and so this ultimate foodie--a woman who is paid to eat for a living--must vastly curtail her eating in order to continue being able to make a living.

    SLIM TO NONE is a story near and dear to my heart. Like probably every female out there with a heartbeat and a stomach pooch, I have been on the dieting treadmill since I was oh, born. Well, wait, I guess after I started walking. It was then that I knew I needed to stop cramming down the Froot Loops my mother kept insisting was the only thing I would eat, and instead turn to steel-cut oats direct from Ireland for the best proper nutrition.

    Alas, Froot Loops won the day, over and over again. In what seems like an omnipresent dietary smackdown between Brussels sprouts and Fluffernutter sandwiches, the latter prevails every time. And with that has been the roller coaster of dieting and hating to diet and then never having pants that fit and a closet full of awesome clothes collecting dust that I really ought to just purge and give to someone thinner and more deserving, but instead I hold out mournful hope that I again will jam my fat ass into a size 6 pair of Gloria Vanderbilt jeans (yes, friends, it has been that long).

    With that albatross secured snugly around my neck, I decided to tackle the ups and downs of this way of life in a novel—and decided upon a foodie for whom food had to become the enemy. I loved the idea of taking someone who has to eat for a living then not be able to eat in order to continue to be able to eat for a living. Such a quandary! And then of course I wanted to pile her up with all sorts of issues that she has to overcome.

    I hope you'll join Abbie on her journey of self-discovery and while you're at it enjoy many of the yummy recipes you'll find within the pages of SLIM TO NONE.

Jenny Gardiner is also the author of the recently released WINGING IT: A MEMOIR OF CARING FOR A VENGEFUL PARROT WHO'S DETERMINED TO KILL ME (Simon & Schuster's Gallery books), and the award-winning SLEEPING WITH WARD CLEAVER (Dorchester books).